Broken Heart Syndrome: This Mind-Body Connection Can Kill You

In popular culture, people often talk about experiencing such a strong instance of heartbreak due to loss that they feel like they could die. How many times have you heard people say: “I am afraid she will die of a broken heart if she doesn’t get help soon.”

Many of us have been in situations, where for even a brief moment, death seems preferable to life, if life means continuing on without a beloved spouse, parent, friend, or even pet.

Many people believe talking about dying from a broken heart is merely a simple turn of phrase—after all- everyone knows that a broken heart doesn’t really kill people, right?

But, do not write off such a phenomenon too soon; indeed it is possible to die from a broken heart. Having spent many years practicing anesthesiology in a famous cardiac hospital within a high-acuity setting, I have learned all about the strength of the mind-body connection. People can indeed die from a broken heart and this phenomenon is called Broken Heart Syndrome or Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy.

The American Heart Association says this about the phenomenon: “Broken heart syndrome, can strike even if you’re healthyWomen are more likely than men to experience the sudden, intense chest pain — the reaction to a surge of stress hormones — that can be caused by an emotionally stressful event.

It could be the death of a loved one or even a divorce, breakup or physical separation, betrayal or romantic rejection. It could even happen after a good shock (like winning the lottery.) Broken heart syndrome may be misdiagnosed as a heart attack because the symptoms and test results are similar. In fact, tests show dramatic changes in rhythm and blood substances that are typical of a heart attack. But unlike a heart attack, there’s no evidence of blocked heart arteries in broken heart syndrome. In broken heart syndrome, a part of your heart temporarily enlarges and doesn’t pump well, while the rest of your heart functions normally or with even more forceful contractions. Researchers are just starting to learn the causes, and how to diagnose and treat it.

The bad news: Broken heart syndrome can lead to severe, short-term heart muscle failure.

The good news: Broken heart syndrome is usually treatable. Most people who experience it make a full recovery within weeks, and they’re at low risk for it happening again (although in rare cases in can be fatal).”

I was partial witness to Broken Heart Syndrome in action. A colleague who worked as an ER physician called me on his way home. He felt the patient was having an heart attack, but something about it didn’t seem like a heart attack. I immediately asked about the patient’s mental state or recent stressors. The doctor admitted that the patient had just found out about his wife’s infidelity and that she abandoned the marriage with no warning. He had told my colleague that he was not sure how he could live without his wife. I immediately thought of Broken Heart Syndrome and asked my colleague to call the doctor who took over the patient’s case.

My colleague called the hospital not a second too late because the patient was experiencing deadly arrhythmias by that time and everyone feared this patient was at death’s door. When the doctor’s realized the patient was experiencing Broken Heart Syndrome, the patient was treated and the patient made a full recovery.

I cannot under-estimate the role of stress reduction and meditation in one’s life because the mind-body connection is so strong. If you are currently dealing with stressful events or are dealing with a broken heart, please consider working with me.

I have been through a tremendous personal heartbreak and I have come out the other side, healthier and happier for it. Do not keep it inside, friend, you deserve better than that. I would love to hear your story and to work with you. Please click the contact link so we can start working together.

Namaste and to your continued well-being,


Dr. Rajiv Parti

Healing Heartbreak with Kundalini Yoga

Kundalini yoga known today is a 20th-century niche yoga synthesis comprised of many traditions including Hatha, Kriya, Tantra, and Laya yoga. Kundalini gets its name from the serpent-like Shakti –Life Force energy– of Tantrism.

Kundalini yoga was popularized in the late 1960s by Yogi Bhajan, who adding Sikh mantras and attached Tantric theories to yogic asanas (postures). His Kundalini yoga uses body postures and hand mudras, breathing, chanting, dancing, and meditating to transform and expand consciousness, and awaken and raise Life Force energy up the Chakra energy spine.

Emotional wounds of heartbreak not only affect the heart by contracting it, they wreak havoc on the nervous system as well. Kundalini yoga seeks to calm the nerves and soothe the heart so healing can take place. Kundalini “kriyas” (meaning: work or action) are a series of exercises or postures, pranayama (breathing), bandha locks, chanting, visualization or projections, in a specific sequence designed to produce specific effects. By using specific kriyas which help calm nerves and soothe strong emotions, and by focusing awareness on higher consciousness using mantras, Kundalini yoga can help heal heartbreak and strengthen a wounded spirit.

Kundalini yoga’s ability to raise and expand consciousness makes it a good fit with the Consciousness Based Healing method transmitted to me during my NDE. Kundalini yoga’s great ability to treat the Chakra energy spine, calm nerves and soothe strong emotions are why I recommend it to my clients.

Kundalini yoga also uses pranayama (breathing) and bandha locks (postures involving muscle contractions) which channel and align energy flow throughout the body. In coaching sessions, I will share with you the breathing and bandha-locks, kriya-mudras and meditations for processing and releasing grief and healing heartbreak. My coaching makes learning Kundalini yoga easy, and you can then practice these at home and include them in your spiritual routine. Practicing Kundalini yoga will help relieve anxiety and stress and will facilitate healing your broken heart.

Healing Heartbreak Kriya – Mudra

This mudra creates balance; it generates a subtle pressure which adjusts the heart meridian along the little finger and outer forearm, activating the “action nerve” junction with the autonomic system to reset itself by keeping the forearms parallel to the ground and involving the armpit reflexes; and finally, it uses the pranic influence of the middle finger and its Saturn and air qualities to quell residual emotional storms.

Posture: Sit in Easy Pose with a straight spine and a light Neck Lock.

Mudra: Palms together, lightly touching. The tip of the Saturn (middle) finger is at the level of the Third

Eye Point. The forearms are horizontal to the ground, elbows high. Look within.

(No mantra or breath specified.)

Time: Continue for 11, 31, or 62 minutes.

To end: Inhale, exhale, relax the breath, and with clasped hands stretch the arms up for 2 minutes.

Meditation for removing haunting thoughts..

There is a meditation yogi bhajan gave with 5 parts..thinking of a situation where you felt very hurt

1) bringing up the feeling,

2) feeling how the other person felt,

3) forgiving yourself,

4) forgiving them and

5) letting it go to the universe..

After each of the steps you breathe in, hold the breath and focus on the right eye and chant “wa,” the left eye-“hey,”,the tip onf the nose-“guru ,”and then let the breath out. You can repeat the same incident as much as needed, or go from one to another, whatever comes up. I did it for 90 days in the late 90’s when yogi b sent it to is subtle and really starts the healing process. Not sure it is in a manual but have seen it in compiled old teachings, bound together but untitled, might ask if anyone has it…sat nam amrita.

Grief Release & To Heal a Broken Heart

Sit straight, and Tune In!

Part I:
Place your left palm flat against your heart center, with your right hand on top of it. Make your mouth into an “O” and begin very powerfully inhaling through your mouth, expanding the navel as you breathe in, and then exhaling very powerfully through your mouth, as you pull your navel in.

Continue in this way for 3-5 minutes. Allow your breath to enter your heart center, and clear all emotional conflict that you are going through.

Part II:
Bring your palms together in prayer pose. Place this mudra in front of your face, with the tips of your middle fingers at the level of your forehead. Keep your elbows out to the sides, arms parallel to the floor. Keep your eyes focused at your brow point (third eye). Hold the position with long, deep breathing through your nose.

Try to think of nothing!

This is very good for building nerve strength, and helps mend a broken heart. Continue for 11 minutes. At the end, inhale deeply, exhale and stretch for up to 2 minutes. Relax.

Getting a Hold of Yourself after Heartbreak: Three Steps to Healing

steps to healing a heartbreakPamela finally found the love of her life after years of loneliness, but two short years later she was heartbroken; grieving the sudden loss of her partner to cancer. She felt her life had been ripped to pieces, with the biggest piece of her now gone—taken from her.

This is the meaning of heartbreak. With intimate love relationships, usually a big piece of our heart is said to be “given” to our loved one. When a relationship abruptly or unexpectedly ends, it feels like a big piece of who we are is taken away from us. We lend our heart to our beloved in their safe keeping and when something happens that breaks that bond it is very disorienting and depleting.

As a result, Heartbreak causes damage to one’s sense well-being and self-image which gets fragmented—effectively leaving people emotionally and spiritually in pieces.  The way to be whole again is to gather up these pieces and hold them together as you heal. Healing is quite literally getting a hold of yourself.

Getting a Hold of Yourself

Whatever led to your heartbreak, the strong emotions that arise like anger, hurt, or fear—including feeling debilitated like all the energy has drained from life—are feelings that must be honored and allowed to process so they can be released.

This process of honoring your feelings is crucial in getting a hold of yourself so that you can eventually get to a place where you can thrive in love again. This involves three steps:

  1. Acknowledge your emotions
    First, in order to honor our feelings we need to acknowledge them, first to ourselves. That is not always easy, for we may think we should feel something different, and don’t want to face how we really feel. But through an practice of acceptance and non-judgment of our own experiences (a commitment to embrace what truly is), this becomes a new, healthy habit. Try to remember that whatever you are feeling is OK to feel. Just stay present to the emotions and sensations, while letting go of all thoughts or interpretations.
  2. Express your feelings
    The second step is to express these feelings. Through expression we move through the experience to come out the other side. To express what you are feeling, it is always best to speak with someone you trust—a non-judgmental friend, a counselor or coach is best—so they can help you work through your feelings and not get stuck in your emotional trauma. The danger of heartbreak is the risk of getting stuck by unconscious thinking patterns, old trauma, or default programs. This can be hard, but if you shine a light on your inner world, it cannot rule you.Remember, you have the strength to face the reality of your experiences.
  3. Putting the pieces back together
    After you have acknowledged and expressed the inevitable emotions of heartbreak, it’s also important to retrieve the pieces of your heart that are broken so you can feel whole and complete again. Quite literally this means finding yourself again. You do this by building on your strengths, expanding on the positive aspects of your life, and recreating healthy self-care and social supports. What successes have you had, and how can you build on these? Who are your safe friends, and what steps do you need to take to spend time with them? Healthy action steps each day, little by little, will embolden you and build momentum towards a new foundation.

It might not feel like it now, but it is possible to collect the pieces of yourself that have been given to others and thereby regain any lost personal power. You truly can feel whole again.

One-on-One Support for Healing from Heartbreak

The healing process sometimes requires additional support from a professional. If you would like guidance in this way, I can help you.

My dear-death experience gave me the gift of seeing how important and precious the human heart is, both literally and figuratively. I use Consciousness Based Healing in my healing technique (Dr. Raj’s Integrative Process™), drawing from both spiritual and energy healing as well as certified coaching to help people integrated the pieces of their broken heart and life. I hold a safe space to honor and facilitate the healing process.

Are you ready to heal? If so, I urge you to take the next step and complete my pre-questionnaire to see if I can help you.

In service,
Rajiv Parti, MD